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childfree comments on Ever wish you'd never had kids?

childfree — Sat, 20 Mar 2010 01:57:33 +0000

Thank you all for your honesty. I am 26 and childfree by choice. I knew that having children was something I never wanted. Everyday I have people asking me when I will have children with my husband. When I say never I am told I am a terrible person. They say once I have children I will never regret it. Ha now I see that I would. I can barely take care of a house plant. Again thank you all.

Susan comments on Procrastination

Susan — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 04:40:00 +0000

I hope you feel better, you are so right, racing while sick really does SUCK! I will be praying for you - sleep baby sleep!

Susan comments on Q of the Week : How much screen time do your kids get?

Susan — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 15:46:51 +0000

Screen time is a hard subject to keep in check. I can tell you that the research is there to prove that how much and what our kids are watching and is available to them to view IS affecting them negatively. You can see it all around you, so by limiting this just as you would not allow your child to drink 12 cans of coke a day is the right thing to do. Children need to have help understanding how to make choices, budget time and this concept of having a certain amount of a "privilege" for them to use is a great way to incorporate that. I have always limited screen time (TV, Videos, computer, IPOD) and as the kids get older, 12 yrs and up we start loosening the parent input to see how they do. If they can make good choices, then they are free to do so without my input, but if I see screen time starts monopolizing their time - I get the control back!

debbie comments on Q of the Week : How much screen time do your kids get?

debbie — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:21:06 +0000

My kids watch tons of t.v. and it is another thing I refuse to set rules around. I feel no guilt about it, there is too much rule setting and guilt inflicting in motherhood. Here's to joyfully mothering!

Heather Cabot comments on Q of the Week : How much screen time do your kids get?

Heather Cabot — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:23:03 +0000

I struggle with this myself. I limit ALL screen time to less than an hour per day for my preschoolers. On weekends when the weather is bad, they sometimes watch a Disney movie as a special treat. They know it is a privilege and that they can watch at the end of the day when I am fixing dinner. We have certain PBS or Disney shows that I DVR for them and we discuss which ones they want if there is something new they want to see. What I find most troubling is that I literally have to pause the show to talk to them. They are utterly absorbed when the tube is on. I also find the computer and my iPhone are a major draw for them. I consider all of it screen time. A couple of years ago, I was privileged to interview some folks from Common Sense Media (commonsensemedia.org) who said that screen time doesn't really have much value until kids can read and even then, it should be limited. I was told, at the pre-reading stage, kids are served much more by the social interaction, creativity and problem solving skills etc. associated with imaginary play. That's what I remind myself when they start asking (whine) --- Can't we watch just ONE more??

gowest12 comments on Ever wish you'd never had kids?

gowest12 — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:35:38 +0000

Also for Tom Smith, no not all of us were aware of the negatives as society as a whole makes motherhood seem like the only valuable rewarding job on earth!!!! If all the crap was actually shown how it is people would be more aware of how it actually changes your life!!!! It's the dirtiest least rewarding job of all. I love my daughter but I certainly don't find my role rewarding like it is meant to be according to society. Now she is 7 I just can't wait till she is in her 20's and old enough to look after herself, and she herself doesn't like babies and she hates playing with baby dolls so I hope she grows up not having children as I do not want to be a grandma ever!!!!

gowest12 comments on Ever wish you'd never had kids?

gowest12 — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:31:20 +0000

All you childfree ladies if your man wants a kid run a mile as they are definetly not worth it!!!

gowest12 comments on Ever wish you'd never had kids?

gowest12 — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 16:30:23 +0000

I think now I hate my husband totally for making me get into this mother crap!!! I would leave him tomorrow if it wasn't for my daughter. Fact is I blame him for putting that pressure on me to have a child that has actually made me very depressed and anxious now I am on medication for the rest of my life as I am just enduring this hell of a life as opposed to living it. Not only do I regret having a kid I also regret getting married. There is nothing better than independent women if you ask me. No man, no kids absolute bliss!!!!!

Martha comments on Tip of the Week : Travel Light!

Martha — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:47:53 +0000

I hate lugging tons of bags, suitcases etc. It even bothers me when my family has a ton of stuff along even if they do the lugging. I remember the days when we had to pack a crib, booster seat and other baby acoutrements. My hubby was bringing a full sized CPU and monitor along on every trip as well. Sigh. Praise the Lord for laptops! We have another toddler now, but have never brought a crib or booster along. He does fine on the floor or someone's lap and the older kids would have too I'm sure. We re-wear clothes, mix and match and do a load of laundry if necessary. My boys would happily never change if I let them. :( Use travel size toothpaste, etc. Deliberately don't have a hair style that would require a hair dryer or curling iron. Put things inside packed shoes. Roll clothes to pack.

Wedje comments on Would you Like Some ... Homemade Bath Salts?

Wedje — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 22:59:47 +0000

cool. good tip. eeeeeeaasy.