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Monday
08Feb2010

Q of the Week : What (if anything) do you expect to get for Valentine's Day?

Expectations are rarely a good idea in terms of gifts, but I bet at least most of us secretly have them.  I’m the queen of telling myself I have no expectations, but then realizing later (in my disappointment) that I really did have them!  Grr.  Better to never expect and be pleasantly surprised, yes? 

However, I still want to know … what do you expect to get for Valentine’s Day?  I grew up in a house where holidays were faithfully acknowleged with a treat and a card at our place at the breakfast table.  We almost always ate together, and it became a fun ritual to see something colorful on our plates in the morning.  I don’t manage anything remotely regular like that, but sometimes the kids make or get cards, and I do whatever comes to mind.  It’s almost always last-minute! 

This Sunday, I expect I’ll have a card from my mom to open (she’s never missed a year yet) and likely some kind of card from Douglas that he’s made in class.  They get less elaborate as they get older, but they did make Christmas cards so I won’t be too shocked if something pink or red comes home.  Other than that, I have none.  My husband doesn’t do holidays, and I’m determined not to make him feel guilty if he doesn’t.  I’ll probably bring him coffee in bed, and call it a day :). 

So, what are your true holiday expectations? 

Friday
05Feb2010

Friday Roundup

SAJ Has Free Valentines :  Print, clip, and go!  She’s often got great free printables, worth checking out

Nick Vujicic : Inspirational life and speaker, you get a new perspective on making the most of what you have!

So the Thing Is blog : I love Barb Cooper’s writing, and her blog is a treat. 

Incoming: The Unknown (sit with it) : from Isle Dance, another new blog find, very refreshing

Have a great weekend, and if you’ve got any great finds from this week please share them below!

 

Thursday
04Feb2010

NY-Based Events

Once in awhile I post things for local events, sorry to those of you who can’t take advantage of them :(.  A few are below, check ‘em out if you’re in the area!

The Public Theater Shakespeare Initiative

In addition to producing professional Shakespeare in Central Park and downtown, the Shakespeare Initiative runs a sophisticated education and outreach program for adults and students in under-served communities.

  • Summer ShakeUp
  • Shakespeare Spring Break Break
  • A Midsummer Day’s Camp

In 2009, these programs served nearly 2500 New Yorkers.

For more information, dates and registration check www.publictheater.org.

Great Momasphere Events

Momasphere, based in Park Slope Brooklyn, has some fun events coming up, including …

  • March 8th, 2010: How to Prepare a Restaurant-Class Dinner for Four for Under $20! With Executive Chef of Melt Mark Simmons
  • April 18th, 2010: Lunafest Women’s Film Festival. Award-winning Films By…For…And About Women.

The Melt event looks especially fun to me, what’s not to love about learning some tips from a Top Chef contender in an intimate little class?! 

As always, check out www.achildgrowsinbrooklyn.com and www.mommypoppins.com for the latest scoops on where to go and what to do with kids in NYC.  Both have redesigned their sites since I last mentioned them, take a look!

Wednesday
03Feb2010

Would You Like Some ... Shrimp Valentine?

Back when we still pretended to celebrate holidays, I sometimes made a special Valentine’s Day dinner.  One year I pulled a recipe from the newspaper that sounded like it had all our favorites in it: lime, shrimp, garlic, butter, stinky cheese, cilantro, and sake.  What’s not to love?!  It’s rich enough to be reserved for special occasions, and man is it good!  It’s definitely become a favorite, though I don’t make it too often. 

The recipe is below, and if you want a handy printable version head over here to PW’s Tasty Kitchen where I’ve posted it too.  Aside from peeling shrimp (if you buy them that way) it’s very quick to make … Enjoy! 

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Tuesday
02Feb2010

Tip of the Week : Take time to watch your kids

I’m reading some John Holt at the moment, a commentator on education and creativity and schooling.  So far it’s fascinating stuff, and one of the things he talks about is observing in a classroom, and staying long enough that the kids forgot he was there and acted completely naturally.  He saw many things that he never saw when he was in front of the class teaching, and he figured out a lot about the kids’ motivations in what they were doing.  How many things were purely for the teacher’s benefit, for example. 

If you can, find a way to observe your kids when they’re not watching or aware.  You know when you hear things from a teacher and you can’t believe they’re talking about your kid?  I’ve been there many times :).  So many things are purely done to get a reaction out of us it’s not funny.  Come early to pick them up from a playdate or class, and stand in the back.  It gives you great perspective on who they are, and how much your presence tailors their decisions!  I know it’s helped me to realize where I was putting too much pressure on them, and how my expectations shape them.  It only takes a few minutes sometimes to find some really good insights. 

Monday
01Feb2010

Q of the Week : Favorite Movies?

I’ve watched more movies than usual lately, thanks to my friend Mike who sent me a bunch of DVDs of some old classics.  I didn’t watch many at all until I was in my mid 20’s, thanks to growing up without a TV and my folks not liking theaters much.  I’ve not exactly made up for it since, but my movie consumption has been steady for the last few years at about one a week.  I have a few on my shelf that I go to time and again, but only a few.  Most movies I don’t care to see more than once.  I’d usually rather re-read a good book than re-watch a movie. 

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Sunday
31Jan2010

taking things slowly

I’m not so good at taking thing slowly.  I got my new Vibram 5-Fingers Sprint “shoes” for running, and am in love with them!  They let you run almost barefoot, which I love.  Shifting over to them from regular shoes, however, means that your whole gait and foot-strike have to change dramatically.  Basically you run on the front of your foot, not the heel.  And all the research and advice out there in web-land says to take the transition very very slowly, ie: run one mile in them and wait a couple days before doing 1 + 10%.  Sure I could take them along and switch after a mile, but that’s no fun!  So I went out and did just 1.5 miles and came home, and have a feeling I’ll be paying for it tomorrow as my calves are already sore.  But it sure was fun :).  I’m not good at being reined in when I do have energy.  It didn’t help that today was the sunniest and best day for running in the last week, and I had my choice to times to go since hubby was home!

Aren’t they pretty?  They may fall into Ugh! category for most of you, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder :).  Sorry it’s been a foot-focused week, I do have a very strong predilection for going barefoot wherever I can get away with it, and often have to defend my barefooting as my kids imitate me.  Ah well!

Off to do some more cleanup/sorting/purging kind of stuff which is one of my favorite weekend activities.  I adore pitching things.  Oh, and yes, this completes 31 consecutive days of blogging!  It’s not been easy, but it has been fun, and I hope to keep up the daily part even though I’ll probably not post on the weekends.  Do you like the frequent posting better? 

Saturday
30Jan2010

it's been a long day ...

… and all I want is glass of wine and a movie.  Tempers were as short as the mercury in the thermometer today, and colds and coughs were in evidence.  I didn’t do so well in the temper department myself, and could not wait to put the kids in bed.  I think they’re finally asleep?  I’m going to make myself fold the last two loads of laundry and then pick out a movie.  

Oh, and laundry, which I hate folding but don’t mind doing?  I’m trying a new system which works pretty well.  I now put all laundry out of the dryer straight onto our bed.  (It used to be the couch.).  Now I can’t go to bed unless it’s folded … rather handy and has worked so far!

I did manage this week to start the ball rolling with homeschooling … D has two weeks left of public school and then he’s home!  I’m quite honestly terrifed, but still convinced it’s the right thing.  I talked to his teacher and the parent coordinator at the school, and both were extremely understanding and supportive.  Whew!  Got the paperwork started, received a fab box of books from my expert-homeschooler cuz (thanks Tiff!) and feel like it’s a matter of Ghost in the Graveyard from here on.  Remember that nighttime hide/seek game with the “Ready or not, here I come!” chant?  I’m in the dark, ready or not, but the game has started … curious ride this will be.

I’ll leave you with a pic of the snowman we built on Thursday, when it wasn’t quite so horridly cold for playing outside.  It lasted all of an hour before melting, and was kicked to bits right after school as it was the only non-melted snow left to play in!

Friday
29Jan2010

Friday Roundup

Lots of good stuff out there this week, what did you enjoy?  Some of my favorites were …

The NY Times piece on She Works, They’re Happy : I found the statistics interesting, and the issues (like letting to of control) pretty fascinating also.  I’m personally slowly finishing the reverse shift (I was the major breadwinner for years, haven’t been for the last few) and am looking forward to not having the pressure of breadwinning for awhile.  There were several related articles worth checking out also. 

Jenn at the WC wrote Role Reveral, I Think Not! based on the article above, and she makes some good points.  The comments section is pretty great too.

Mothersonfire.com is a new site worth checking out, I haven’t dug too deeply but it appears we’re on much the same page!

Gifted is a beautiful reflection on gifts and life, and includes two fabulous “just happened to see” moments that are definitely worth clicking over for!  I just had a banner mail day myself, with new running slippers that I don’t want to take off, and a big gift box of shiny new homeschooling books :).  My friends rock. 

Dream Big and then Run like Thunder (Proof that the world is not full of hate) made me cry, twice.  Thanks to Shelly Kneupper Tucker for sharing the story of her Share a Square project :).  Many loving hands make light work.

Have any favorites to share?  Have a great weekend!

Thursday
28Jan2010

I'm missing my grandma

she loves me.Do you ever pre-mourn something?  Something you know is inevitable, so you start processing the feelings in advance, even though it hasn’t happened?  I’ve been doing that the last couple of weeks, for my grandma.  She’s 93, in an extended-care facility, and while reasonably healthy she’s slowly losing her mind.  I’ve dreamed about her packing her bags to leave, heard reports from my mom that her short-term memory is gone, and am afraid that she won’t know me at all the next time I see her.  She very well may be around for a few more years, but she won’t be Grambie to me.  She’ll be like her own mother, the one I remember mostly as a frail bird perched on the edge of her bed in a nursing home, spitting cookie-bits across the room when she couldn’t gum them well enough.  I never really knew my great-grandmother before she was senile, so there wasn’t a relationship to mourn.

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